You are working as district collector. Your wife, who is a housewife, is angry that you spend more time with the public and in office doing government work rather than spending time with her. She is also not happy with the fact that you are not even talking to children these days because of your busy work schedule. She is sometimes supportive of you. But sometimes she keeps asking you why you married her when all you wanted was serving the public 24×7. Her parents are worried too. Even though you want to spend time with your family, work pressure is not allowing you to do this. Recently she even told you that she would divorce you rather than living such a lonely life.
- work-life balance is sine qua non for sustainable performance of duties by any professional.
- a good administrator is one who not only manages well the public relations but more importantly personal relations too.
- personal and professional lives are intrinsically linked. Disturbance in one has potential to create disequilibrium in another. So an administrator should focus on creatively integrating both.
- divorce the wife and marry other civil servant girl – worst option – unbecoming to a good administrator-shirking responsibility of being a husband and parent-moreover marrying other civil servant doesn’t mean that she will not require care, affection and proper time sharing.
- leave public work it will never end, manage your personal life- again extreme action-why join public services if so oriented toward personal life pleasures? – will show weaknesses like immaturity to handle conflicting problems -not expected from a good administrator.
- Middle path- balance both-creative integration- perhaps best way to handle such situations. How? –